Orgasm Denial & Training

Both dominants and submissives get pleasure from orgasm denial. The sub wants to do anything to please their master and doms, well take control. In short, subs are only allowed to orgasm when the dom wants you too. Orgasm denial is a great way to encourage discipline but also for the dominant to fully control the sexual experience of the sub. Permission to have pleasure, simple but the kinkiest training in a sub dom relationship.

One of the easiest ways to start with training is to have this rule. No masturbation without permission. The sub must promise not to masturbate with or without you. A written agreement is always a good idea when in a BDSM relationship. Doms can outline what subs are and are not allowed to do. No vibrators, no touching any part of their body apart from showering, the dom must assert their dominance fully to allow this practice to reach its full potential. Allow the sub to keep a diary. Write down when they had the urge to masturbate but stopped themselves. This will satisfy a dom even more knowing how many times their dominance has availed.

Edging

This involves having the sub get to the point where they are right on the edge of an orgasm, then stopping so they cannot orgasm. Frustrating for the slave, satisfying for the dom. This can take a few tries to get this right. Look for signs when the sub is near orgasm if your sub cannot control themselves. Once they are able to stop when you tell them to stop, then the real fun can begin.

Make Orgasms A Reward For Good Behaviour

Orgasm denial is a great way to take complete control of the sexual experience, but there has to be a moment where you allow the sub to feel pleasure. It’s all about getting the balance right between denial and pleasure. Make orgasms a reward for good behaviour. If your sub is obeying commands, edging perfectly then reward them with the pleasure they desire. Once a sub is able to control their orgasms they will learn that the orgasm will become more intense when they are earned. Then they will be fully submitted to your dominance.

Tease And Frustrate

Use their weakness. The majority of us have a preferred masturbating hand, make the sub masturbate with their weaker hand and enjoy watching them squirm as they can’t quite hit the spot. Another way to frustrate the sub, bind their hands and even their feet if you are feeling extra kinky. You have finally allowed them to orgasm, but without using their hands or feet to help. Soak in watching them desperately grind and hump whatever they can to finally reach orgasm.

Including orgasm denial in your schedule is a great way to assert dominance even more. Show your sub who is in complete control. Get the greatest pleasure out of watching your sub squirm and beg you for more. You take full control of their sexual experience. Check out our other blogs to get further information on topics such as BDSM etiquette and the Gear every kink needs.

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